We often extend kindness and understanding to friends and loved ones when they’re going through a tough time, but how often do we offer that same compassion to ourselves? Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness, care, and understanding that you would offer to a friend, especially during times of suffering or perceived failure. It’s not about ignoring mistakes or pretending everything is fine, but about meeting your challenges with gentleness instead of self-criticism. For older adults, this mindset can be especially powerful, helping to ease stress, lift mood, and provide a sense of steadiness during life’s inevitable changes.
A review of 56 studies found that practicing self-compassion (being kind to yourself, accepting challenges as part of life, and staying present) can improve mental well-being. These self compassion programs led to moderate improvements in depression, stress, and anxiety, with many benefits lasting over time. While most participants were younger, the findings still apply to older adults navigating retirement, health changes, or loss.
So, how do we put self compassion into practice? Here are some examples from Positive Psychology:
Let yourself make mistakes.
Care for yourself the same way you’d care for others.
Practice mindfulness.
Try not to judge yourself too quickly.
Let go of the need for outside validation.
By making these small shifts in how we treat ourselves, we can build a steady source of support from within - one that strengthens emotional health, reduces stress, and helps navigate the second half of life with greater resilience and grace.
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